Wednesday, August 18, 2021

Before you criticize.. ask


 


I know I'm not a active on the blog as I used to be,  but I wasn't seeing the engagement that would make the work worth it for me.  I've been posting on Facebook,  Instagram and occasionally to Twitter. 

My current batch of kittens has gone viral.  Mostly because Facebook has decided to show my videos on their media section. I am thrilled.  It's nice to see so many people love my videos and the kittens. It also warms my heart that I can bring a smile to so many faces. 

But..

As you can guess by the opening image,  it isn't all whiskers on kittens.  I'm getting criticism for the most basic of things.  People saying I shouldn't be recording hungry kittens but feeding them.  I shouldn't let kittens fall.  I shouldn't confine the kittens,  among others. 

Personally, I couldn't care less as I know what I'm doing and why.  I know that the kittens are well fed,  loved,  happy, and are in one of the safest place (20 years of tweaks to my foster room has made this as safe as it can be and not be a padded cell). I am constantly complemented on how social and well adjusted my foster kittens are.  Do I wish I could do more?  Of course, but there is no money in volunteering to raise kittens.  I have to work, which puts me out of the house 11 hours a day.  I have a family,  friends, five cats, six email addresses, a blog and social media.. and I need to sleep and deal with my lipedema.. 

And after 11 hours of work I do get to come home to this..


But also this..


And I, nor anyone else on the internets, really need you to do that as well. 

What I do care about is being an advocate. Not only for the kittens but for fostering.

So, basically, for people who don't know me..  I've been fostering for 20 years.  Well over 500 kittens.. I've lost track. I study cat behavior.  I understand behavioral development in kittens.  I have taken on incredibly difficult cases, heartbreaking ones. I've learned to tube fed, I've given a kitten a vet sanctioned enema, I can give a 3 oz kitten fluids. I haven't met a cat I can't medicate. I can trim 120 claws in under 10 minutes.  And I'm generally faster than a speeding kitten (but not four).. so before you tell me what I'm doing wrong in a 2 to 4 minute glimpse into one part of my life,  please tell me what you do to support unowned cats and kittens.  Do you volunteer? Have you ever fostered? Have you even shared a plea from your local rescue to find a home for a kitty in their care? Donated?  No?  I didn't think so.. so maybe you can trust that I might know something you don't. 

And if you really really can't stop yourself from telling me I'm doing it wrong, could you try formatting it to ask a question instead? Like "why are those kittens behind a baby gate" (to keep them safely contained in the very large foster room) or even "those kittens look really hungry,  why are you not feeding them faster?" (A couple of reasons.  A)kittens are unreasonable and don't understand that sometimes they have to wait.  Teaching that now helps when they are older so they don't scream in your face at 3 am. B) because making cute videos of them when they aren't hungry is harder and people like to hear mews, and the more people that see the videos the more people learn about fostering.  And most importantly... C) they simply aren't that hungry.  Think of a kid on a hot day when they hear the ice cream truck. I give them enough food to last until the next time I tend to them.  They like canned food,  they want more.  They don't care of they are actually hungry or not.  Hasn't your cat every conned you out of a second breakfast? )


I love questions.  I'll talk about cats and kittens all day if someone is genuinely interested (and sometimes even if they aren't)... so have at it.  Any questions you've ever wanted to know about me, my cats, my fosters,  cats in general? 


26 comments:

  1. Dang social media trolls. You do a fabulous job and those who love you know it!!

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  2. Well, we think you rock. Never mind the stupid haters.

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  3. This is social media, full of frustrated people who don't have a life of their own and want to hurt others. Don't mind them, keep going and ignore them. They don't matter.

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  4. Having nerves of steel is sometimes necessary when it comes to social media! Of course, WE know you are amazing at kitten rearing. Haters gonna hate.

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  5. You are the cat's meow, Connie, and such an expurrt on kitties. We love you. You are purrfect in my eyes.

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  6. Anonymous5:59 AM

    Lurker here, emerging to say that your blog is a much enjoyed part of my morning routine, even though I don't normally comment. Facebook is somewhere I won't go (for various reasons), and they continue to reduce how people without accounts can interact with Instagram (presumably because they're harder to monetize).

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    1. I totally understand. Fb is beyond annoying for multiple reasons and I admire you for stepping away.

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  7. I can't follow you on FB because I deleted my account for the reasons that you have brought up in this post. I follow you here on your blog and on Insta and enjoy your pictures of the kittens and what you have to say about them. You have a wonderful sense of funny that I enjoy. I have been following you for a few years and I I have no doubt when it comes to kittens you know what you are doing and it is some lucky kittens that land in your home. They are loved and well taken care of so that they can go on to their forever homes. Facebook is such a toxic environment.
    And lastly, I am in love with Fleurp!!!

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    1. You don't need a fb account to see my posts there.. you just wouldn't be able to comment.. fb.com/tfkblog

      Apparently Fleurp will need to take over the blog for a while ;)

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  8. I like this blog and I appreciate you!

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  9. Glad to see you emerge here, even for a moment, and sorry you are dealing with the trolls. I have learned so much over the years from you, Connie -- so a belated thank you. Like another commenter, I have a huge soft spot in my heart for Fleurp and always will.

    Hurrah for Happy Bear!! And oof on the poopsmear. I don't even have kittens and sometimes that's what I come home to.

    I hope Mr. Darcy (who really has the most interesting face) and Ms Mouse are doing well. And the rest of the crew of course.

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  10. You know that I know you are the cat's meow of fosterers! I have learned so much from you over the years and feel honored to call you friend <3 If you are looking for post ideas - I would love to know more about transitioning cats used to commercial food to raw food...

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  11. There will always be trolls and they are too busy judging others to put all the effort in like you do. You are amazing and any kitten/cat in your care is blessed. XO

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  12. Only praise and love coming from me!
    You are a hero in my book, and thank you for loving the kitties!

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  13. You are doing Great work. We learned long ago that there are always those who will comment on what you are doing in rescue work. Those who are usually with most to say actually do the least. Its always that way. Keep it up and we will look for you on those other places

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  14. I've followed you for a few years now, and I know that you always have the best interests of the fosters at heart. Keep your chin up! The kittens need you!

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  15. You do great work. We foster too and sometimes I would love to reach out to you when we have a kitten problem. We have many skills but you seem to have mastered the poop! Lol

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    1. I love talking about kittens and fostering.. You are welcome to reach out to me any time!!

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  16. When it comes to kittens and fostering, you are amazing...and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. They don't know what they're talking about. xo

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  17. When we really take over the world, we're going to ban all trolls.

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  18. I don't understand trolls and negative people

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  19. Don't allow these trolls and haters to control you. You are wonderful and I for one thank you.

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  20. Some people just have to be nasty to find some satisfaction out of life. As you've noted, they're likely not someone who has ever cared for or donated to a rescue. Keep doing what you're doing, I love seeing the videos on FB!

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  21. Don't you just love how there are sooooo many "experts" out there?

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